Luke: I'm laughing at the idea that it's illegal for you to be out after dark. We are the people who are leaving when our former selves are arriving, and we see the withering looks they give us, and we just do not care, because, again: It will happen to them too. We have a local gastropub where we drink wine and graze on fancy bites, and we get as drunk as we would have in our twenties, but we are home in soft clothing watching Chef's Table by 8 p.m. My friends and I meet on Saturdays at 4 p.m. Luke: How often are you still going out anyway?ĭave: At 46, I am too old to be anywhere after dark. But about 10 years ago, I took a look around, saw that everyone was a good decade younger than me, and felt a wave of shame and nausea. After the club life ended, I hung out with friends in bars. I gave that life a good old shake for about one year and then I decided it wasn't for me. Places where people come from the hinterlands in their shiniest going-out shirt and most lacquered hair to pump a fist and do a twirl. Now, when I say "clubs," I mean dancey places: DJs and lasers and women in bikini tops selling brightly-colored shots in test tubes. Or going out in general." -Lukeĭave: I have felt too old to be in clubs since I was 22 years old. "It reminded me how little it really matters how old you are when it comes to music like that. Have you felt self-conscious about being out lately? Of course, I didn't stay too long, because I have a bad back and no way I am gonna let some dumbass crowd surf into my spine, but it reminded me how little it really matters how old you are when it comes to music like that. Luke: I bumped into a friend of mine who's 24, we hugged, and then I got sucked into the crowd. I went to see Every Time I Die, who absolutely rip, and I was there outside of the circle pit, drinking my beer like a perfectly normal 40-year-old at the all ages hardcore show, and I was thinking: The floor is so wet with beer, someone's gonna slip and get hurt! But after a few songs I thought, fuck it, I'm going in.ĭave: I am delighted at the thought of you-any old person, actually-in a mosh pit.
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I had a moment the other night where I felt a little self-consciousness kick in.
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computer company, but it was something that was on my mind this week. Luke: Normally I wouldn't pay attention to this sort of survey, which isn't scientific and seems to be some sort of branding thing for a U.K. (Though it happened much more quickly than I ever could have imagined, and I take great pleasure in sending this message to the young people of this office and the world: It will happen to you, too.) How old is too old to be at the club?ĭave: Hello Luke! Yes, indeed we are the token olds at Esquire, which is neither an insult nor an honor, but just a fact. Apparently we're the resident old guys, and I'm not exactly sure if that's an insult or an honor to be honest, so it has fallen upon us to tangle with this thorny matter. In order to process this information, certified Esquire Old Guys™ Luke O'Neil and Dave Holmes talked about how it feels to have one foot in the going-out grave. But what's worse for those of us on the wrong side of the appropriate clubbing age equator, 37 percent of respondents said, "There is nothing more tragic than seeing adults in their forties and fifties surrounded by twenty-somethings in pubs and bars." Yikes.
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But by and large, they agreed, there is an age cut off for when it's time to give up: 37. There are all sorts of reasons people give for hanging up their nightlife spurs, from expenses, to the hassle of finding something to wear, to arranging a babysitter.